The Happiness Project

Mental Health blog, focused on self-care and learning to love your life!

Can you believe it? We finally made it to 2021! This is something worth celebrating for in my opinion.

New Year’s is right around the corner and we all like to think about the upcoming year and what our new goals will be. However, if there was one thing we learned from 2020, it is to not expect the year to go according to your plans and go with the flow. So what are some goals that we can have that are more long-term and easily accomplishable, even if things don’t go our way? This post will hopefully help you identify some new goals to consider and get you ready to ring in the new year!

Goal #1 – Your Health

We all do it at some point in our lives. We set a goal to lose “x” amount of weight before our beach vacation planned in the summer, and then we hit up our local gyms for maybe a few weeks. We change our diets up and buy all of the “rabbit food” from the produce section and try to convince ourselves to constantly eat salads. Then after a while, we settle back into our routines and act surprise when we don’t accomplish that goal. But deep down, I think most of us want to be healthier, whether it’s for our sake, our families sake, or we just really want to look good in that new bikini.

Here’s my solution to make this a more long-term goal and a slight bit more realistic: be flexible. Don’t run yourself to death on that treadmill for a couple of weeks and get super bummed that the scale hasn’t moved. Talk to your doctor and let them help you make a realistic timeline and action plan to lose the weight. Understand that there are a million exercise plans out there fit for all body types and lifestyles. And trust me, there is a lot more healthy foods out there than just a boring salad. And of course, if all of your plans hit the fan and you are dealing with a pandemic and closed gyms, find ways to keep healthy at home and stay safe! You can even incorporate it into a family plan if you are a busy mom of little ones or a teenager living at home with your parents.

Goal #2 – Money

This is one I struggle with… a lot! I am horrible at making a budget and even worst at sticking to it. Especially if you are like me and live from paycheck to paycheck. I am not an accountant, so please do your own research on what plan works best for you. Your local library might even offer free classes by professionals in your local area to teach you how to break down your budget. Or they will have books in their non-fiction section on how to get your finances back on track. And even if you are stuck in your house, if you really wanted to, I’m sure you can find a way to meet with a financial assistant on a Zoom meeting.

My best bit of advice for this section is always make sure you have a savings tucked away somewhere, even if it’s small. It is always a good idea to have a rainy day fund!

Goal #3 – Relationships

This one might sound a little odd, but it’s worth the read. The past couple of years has really taught me a lot about relationships of all kinds. If you didn’t know, I am married and absolutely love being a wife, but it’s hard work. You won’t always agree with each other. You’ll fight and scream at each other, and then you’ll have an overwhelming desire to make-up because you love each other so much. And don’t even get me started on how difficult it is with bringing a baby into the world. Another thing, I struggle with finding lasting friendships. Anxiety and other factors play a big part in it. And I have really noticed quite a difference in having an adult relationship with your parents. This is a very personal approach to a goal, so the best advice I can offer is to sit down and think about who you are, your beliefs, and what you are looking for and willing to put into these relationships. And even though COVID-19 makes it hard for us to get together, try your hardest to be an active part in someone’s life, just like you would want to be. Just don’t overspend yourself and do all the work. This is a 50/50 kind of thing.

Goal #4 – Travel

Okay… you might be a little out of luck on this one. I know we all miss traveling, I know I do! But realistically, unless you live in a country where COVID-19 isn’t a thing anymore (looking at you New Zealand! Can you lend the US a hand?), the chances of traveling are very limited. But you can still enjoy the outdoors. Go to a local park, find some nearby hiking trails, maybe even do an overnight camping trip. The possibilities are endless! And if you are itching to get into the city, look up the restrictions on your area and find out what is and isn’t allowed. Perhaps you can order take-out from that awesome new restaurant you have been hearing about? Or even buy yourself a gift certificate to treat yourself at a later date for a local hotel or venue. And even though we miss going in person, online shopping is a thing too! It’s great that we can still find ways to support our favorite businesses and tourist industry, even it looks a little strange right now. Just please be safe!

Photo by Tim Mossholder on Unsplash

Whatever you decide on for your New Year’s resolutions, know that things will get better and there is always a way to accomplish your goals! I’m looking forward to seeing what 2021 will bring us, as long as we don’t run out of toilet paper again. Here’s to the New Years!

The Library Lady ♡

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