The Happiness Project

Mental Health blog, focused on self-care and learning to love your life!

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It’s no lie, self-help has taken the literacy world by storm. While it has been around for a long time (a really long time, some books that could fall under the “self-improvement” category can date back since the 1500s!), there was a huge boom in them in the late twentieth century. What categorizes a self-help book? According to Wiki, it states like this:


self-help book is one that is written with the intention to instruct its readers on solving personal problems. The books take their name from Self-Help, an 1859 best-seller by Samuel Smiles, but are also known and classified under “self-improvement“, a term that is a modernized version of self-help. –
Self Help Wiki

So the question lies: Why do people like self-help books so much?

Here are my thoughts: Self-help books are so popular because they are problem-solving tools for the masses. If you have a problem, someone has written a book about it. Struggling to move up in your career? Done. Trying to lose weight? There are probably ten thousand books on that. Want to feel better about yourself and accomplish your dreams? You better believe that there are books about that.

Plus, a lot of times these books are written by famous people in their fields, which for the average joe, most people like to get a glimpse into their lives. You have people like Oprah Winfrey, Rachel Hollis, and Marie Kondo making the self-help genre even more popular. How can these famous people have issues? That can’t be true. But hey, they are REAL people too! Everyone has issues, and it feels great to know that other people struggle with the same things that we do.


So, you might be asking yourself, “What books do you think I should read Library Lady?”


Excellent question, and one that I’m happy to answer! I have another post that is somewhat similar to this, called New Year’s Reads that is specifically about accomplishing your typical New Year’s resolution goals, so if that sounds like that is for you, go for it boo! This post will be about how to make yourself feel better and do better. So without further ado, let’s start this post.

  • Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop. Do you need some tough love in your life? How about a funny Scottish accent to whip you into shape? Yeah, I thought so. I really liked this book, and it is even better to listen to it. His method isn’t for everyone but I really like his style, as long as he’s saying it to me through a book and not in person. Fun fact about me, I may act tough, but I’m really a baby.
    • Also! I found a great class taught by him on this website. You can watch 10 videos he puts together for people who are interested in his style of motivational coaching. Right now, the class is $89, or you can get the monthly pass and have access to over 1500 other videos for $13 a month. Honestly, I’m tempted to snag it. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your ...
  • 8 Keys To Practicing Mindfulness by Manuela Mischke-Reeds. If you are anything like me, you have issues dealing with stress, anxiety, or depression, or maybe all three. Mindfulness has often been associated with meditation, but really it is all about taking things in the heat of a moment, recognizing behaviors, and promoting peace within yourself. I often find myself being the type of person that says or acts what I’m thinking right away, instead of taking a step back and assessing my emotions. As you can imagine, this has landed me in some hot water before. I have really loved reading this book so far, especially as an audiobook, because I can listen and be in my thoughts while doing something I would rather not do, like dishes. PS, does someone want to come do my dishes for me?
    8 Keys to Practicing Mindfulness: Practical Strategies for ...
  • The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. Okay, guys, this one is an oldie, but it’s a goodie still. Published back in 1997, this little pocketbook has been the favorite for many people. The Toltec people have four simple beliefs that help you find true happiness and love for yourself. And who doesn’t need a little more self-love in your life? I know I sure do. Best of all, this book is quick and easy to read, so take it with you the next time you are stuck in the DMV or taking a little road trip. Your mind will thank you.
    The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A ...
  • Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. Alright, I’ll be honest, I haven’t read this one. I really want to read it, but every copy is taken right now and I’m trying to not purchase anything from Amazon because I’m almost to a first-name basis with the Amazon delivery guy. 😅 Anyways, this book is supposed to be one of the most popular self-help books out there. This book is useful for all ages, which widens the audience by a lot. Gilbert helps you break down the fears that one may have when living to their full potential because, let’s be honest, fear really blocks us from many things in our life. She talks about how your attitude and habits can affect your creative work. So if you are someone like me, with a big project on your hands but you have a lot of fears in your head, this is the book for you.
    Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear: Gilbert, Elizabeth ...

Alright ladies and gents, what are some books I missed in this list? I’m always looking for new reading suggestions, so hit me up!

The Library Lady ♡

2 thoughts on “Self Help Books You Should Read

  1. nshami14 says:

    Good read! The Four Agreements and Big Magic are old favorites. Will check out the other two based on your blog. Thanks.


    1. The Library Lady says:

      That is awesome about your favorites! I hope you enjoy the others as well. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

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