The Happiness Project

Mental Health blog, focused on self-care and learning to love your life!

*** Possible Spoilers Ahead! ***
Book Title: Unfu*k Yourself:  Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life
Author: Gary John Bishop
Main Theme: Self Help

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Amazon Link: Unfu*k Yourself

Thesis: For Gary John Bishop, a more aggressive approach to handling life’s problems and situations is his “go-to”. Hell, just ask his clients, because this is what he does for a living. The whole purpose of this book is to help you get out of that ever-turning hamster wheel of BS, and you know what I mean. The constant self-doubt, the excuses you give yourself to not tackle a challenge, or when you have hit your rock bottom, how to dust yourself off and stand back on your own two feet. Unfu*k Yourself is the guide for all of us who need a good “kick in the as*”.

What Drew Me In: Y’all know I love a self-help book every now and then, which is really hilarious because I used to despise them. Maybe because I don’t want someone to pat me on the head and tell me it’s okay. Maybe because I wanted someone to really relate to me and my personal problems. Either way, I have had my eye out on this one for a while, because let’s be real, any book with a cuss word in a title sounds right up my alley. While stuck in this quarantine, I found out that my local library has it available through Hoopla, which is an awesome site for e-audiobooks, e-books, TV shows, movies, and graphic novels. I saw that it was available, so I grabbed it.

My Thoughts: Let me say this… and this is in no way to make fun of Gary (the author)… but his accent is just downright hilariously awesome. I feel like most people would read the paperback version of this book, but if you can, listen to it instead. Gary reads it out loud, and let me say, he is a true Scottish man. I was a little distracted at first, getting used to his accent, but the longer I listened, the more I loved it and felt like the book was so much more… personable? Not sure if that is the right word for it, but if you understand what I’m saying, you’ll get it.

Like any other self-help book, it covers your basics, like “Don’t sweat the small stuff!”, but I really loved several points he made. He makes a point that is backed up by scientific findings: Your thoughts, negative or positive, have a way of changing your actual brain, which in turn, can change you and your emotional/mental space. If you are constantly putting yourself down with negative thoughts, you will turn out to be a more negative person. What a concept! I have always been told that I was a “Negative Nancy” through-out my life. I always rebutted with, “I’m not negative, I’m just realistic!”

*Insert eye roll* 🙄

No man, I’m grown enough to admit, I’m pretty negative about things. I’m negative about myself – Like today, thinking I’m not pretty enough to add a vlogging channel to YouTube for more book reviews – and I’m really negative about outlooks on life – “No one would even care to watch videos of yourself about book reviews on YouTube.”

I’m not saying to go be super positive like nothing can go wrong in your life, but sometimes you need to chill out with those negative thoughts and realize that life doesn’t have to be such dark, gray cloud.

Another great point he made was something that I don’t hear as often: Accept the things you are unwilling to do. Let’s say you are sitting on the couch, a pint of ice cream is to your right, and a bag of Lays chips to your left. You decide to yourself, you know what? I’m going to start eating right and exercising to lose weight. That’s great! So you go to the store, stock up on all the rabbit food, whole wheat bread, and quinoa. You make a nice salad for dinner and go to bed. The next day, you do it all over again, making healthy versions of the food you eat every day. A month goes by, and you drag out the scale, dust it off, and find out to your dismay that you have barely lost any weight. What went wrong?

Maybe it’s because you wouldn’t sign up for that gym membership. Maybe you didn’t put on those old pair of sneakers to run around the neighborhood. You were unwilling to go the extra mile for some real weight loss.

Sound like someone you know? Well, I’ll let you in on a little secret. That someone is totally me. I know I need to lose a little bit of weight. I come from a long line of bigger people, so it’s no surprise that I’m on the bigger side. I can eat all the right food (except the quinoa, I can’t stand the texture). But I HATE exercising!  I hate going to the gym, I feel like I get stared at. And yes, they do stare. I have a pretty large chest, and even with a sports bra on, it’s like staring at two jiggly bowls of jello. Talk about awkward. I hate running, I have bad hips and it usually causes more pain than what it is worth. So I pretty much gave up and tried to eat as healthy as I can, hoping that would be enough. Obviously, that isn’t a good idea. So I sat down and tried to think of things that would help me. Well, I love to swim, do yoga, bike, and dance. There you go, there are some cardio activities for me! I may never run a marathon, but it’s good enough for me.

This is just one example of the many that can be applied here. But I love that Gary, as a life coach, understands that his clients are real people, with real problems, goals, and desires. If one of his clients goes up to him and says, “Gary, I want to be a millionaire.”, he’ll look at you and say, “Alright, are you willing to work 40+ hours a week? Are you willing to sacrifice time with the family, or vacations, or your weekly golf trips? What about eating out all the time?” He’ll put you in your place and help you understand that if you want something in life, you have to go through with it, even the rough parts.

Would I Recommend This Book?: There are many points he makes, but if I covered them all, I would talk all day. And Lord knows, I don’t need any help with that. If you can handle some tough-love and curse words, this book is for you. I don’t know if I could actually sit through a coaching session with him, because I’m a pretty big baby sometimes, but his book covers such a broad range of topics that I’m sure you will find one that sticks with you. By the way, it’s not a huge book. The audiobook is less than 3 hours long, so if you are a person who is on the go a lot, this is perfect for you.


I was hoping for more book reviews due to being stuck inside with COVID-19 rampaging around our country, but I have actually been very, very lazy. 😆 I am about half-way done with another book though, The Beautiful, and I’m hoping to have another book review up soon! Thank you to everyone who continues to support me and my blog, I truly appreciate it! 😊

The Library Lady




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